Make Others Feel Taller NOT Smaller
Most people are drawn to the type of people who make others feel taller not smaller. People like to be around other people who make them feel better about themselves. In general, people pull away from and don’t like to be around those who make them feel bad about themselves. Nobody likes to be around people who are cruel, mean, and rude (especially if that’s their typical nature most of the time). This type of behavior is a sure-fire way to cut people out of your life! It’s like the wrong end of a magnet repelling people…pushing them away instead of drawing them in.
People are drawn to those who make them feel good about themselves. On a side note…Did you know that’s a significant factor in why many people have affairs? It’s not that they necessarily like the other person that much. It’s that they like themselves better when they’re around that person. In affairs, those other people (i.e. affair partners) make them feel better about themselves.
Someone made me feel smaller
I have been around people who have made me feel smaller NOT taller on a number of occasions. Several years ago, I was involved in a situation that, quite honestly, made me feel like crap. I was around someone who felt the need to “tell me the truth” because “true friends tell the truth”. It made me feel very badly about myself, about how I looked, and about the mistakes I made. I honestly felt I couldn’t do anything right, and even when I tried, that too was criticized. It had a tendency to make me dread being around this person in particular. Have you ever felt like that? It’s pretty miserable. Thankfully, I’m getting better about dealing with these feelings (okay…after a few tearful moments), but the initial feelings are very real nonetheless.
After being on the receiving end of hurtful situations like this, I wanted to make sure that I’M not a person who does this to others. I wanted to be sure I was the kind of person that will make others feel taller not smaller. So, I compiled a list of “Do’s” and “Don’ts” of practical steps that each of us can take to make sure we are NOT the kind of person that is like the wrong end of a magnet that repels people. (I actually compiled this list on my phone at 3:00 am in the morning after the bad experience I mentioned earlier because I couldn’t sleep due to being so hurt and angry!)
